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Reward Yourself with Confidence, Not Food

reward yourselfMany times, when people are on a diet, they reward themselves with a nice dinner out or “cheat weekend”, but what about rewarding yourself with nice clothes that support your fitness goals? We would easily blow $50 on dinner without blinking an eye, but why not invest in your confidence and goals?

When I first got married and fell off the fitness train, I dreaded going back to the gym – as the fatter version of me. I felt fat and ugly, and knew people would notice how I had “let myself go”. I wore crappy workout clothes because I didn’t have any cute ones to fit my heavier body. As I lost weight, I began to reward myself with cuter tops and accessories. The closer I reached my goals, the more goodies I got – and the more excited I was about going to the gym.

Changing the way you reward yourself is one way to help boost your self-esteem to help you feel your best as you are working toward your goals. It worked for me – and it can work for you!

Ellie XOXOIf you like fitness and working out, but you want to do it in style, you need to meet Ellie. Ellie is a monthly subscription program where you get a new outfit each month for half the cost. You can stop it any time, or you can even just order pieces you like, but the monthly subscription is the most affordable way to get a killer high-quality outfit each month for less. Here are some of the items I have and really love. As you can see, each piece has a unique design and fun cuts that not only pretty, but are flattering too.
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Here is a sneak peak of Ellie‘s Bon Voyage Collection, the newest monthly collection.

10 Tips for Goal Setting:

  • Set clear defined goals each week – this can be based on attendance, diet or weight
  • Set clear defined goals each month – this should be results based
  • Decide what has to be done to reach those goals
  • Determine a specific reward for each goal or task met
  • Reward yourself weekly with something small – like a fitness magazine or new music
  • Reward yourself monthly with something bigger, like a new outfit or fitness accessory
  • Create a “consolation prize”, like a smaller reward for those times you missed your goal, but didn’t give up or backslide, so you don’t get discouraged
  • Share your goals with friends for added accountability
  • Constantly remind yourself where you will be if you reach your goals each week.
  • Keep your eye on the prize! Post your goals, pictures and motivation where you can see it multiple times through out the day.

FIT TIP: The Secret Behind the Impossible

“Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” St. Francis of Assis.

You surely can’t do the impossible, if you aren’t even doing what is possible now. Maybe you aren’t doing what’s possible because you are too busy attempting the impossible. This can be anything from trying to maintain a crazy workout schedule that would take an act of God to keep, or it could be your poor attempt to buy all that healthy food that is rotting in your refrigerator because you haven’t had time to cook it. Before you can do what’s possible, you need to know what you realistically can pull off right now.

Bridge the Gap 

I believe people often set their sites too high. It may not be too high for someone else, but it could be too high for you – at this exact time in your life. If this is the case, what do you do when you can’t reach something? You bring a ladder out – and the same goes for your goals.

You must have something in place to bridge the gap between where you are now and where you want to be, no matter how impossible it may seem. How steep the climb depends on how close you are to the goal. Another words, if you are far away from your destination, it will be a mild climb and may take a while. If you are wanting to reach your goal quicker, the climb will be more challenging. But remember, BOTH ways will get you to your goal. You just have to decide on what you can handle – both mentally and physically.

If you are impatient, you may require a steep hard climb so you can reach your goal quickly. Someone who is not ready for that big of a challenge may need to take the slower route. Unfortunately, many people feel like they are so far away from their goal, over time, they forget they are still actually moving in the right direction at all. Others never even really set a goal and find themselves climbing the wrong ladder altogether. Listen, in order to reach the right destination, you MUST know where you are heading and PURPOSEFULLY go there – every. single. day.

Don’t Look Down

You’ve heard the saying “no matter what you do, Don’t Look Down!” That saying is SO true with fitness. As soon as we look down, we get shaky. Looking down can refer to looking back, longing for some of the things we “enjoyed” that we may have left behind. Looking down can also refer to negative thoughts, allowing ourselves to get mentally down. No matter what the distraction is, as soon as we take our eyes off the goal, we set ourselves up for getting off course or doubting where we are and where we are heading.

Are You Willing to Climb?

  • You CAN lose 50lbs IF you are willing to do the work consistently for 6 months.
  • You CAN compete in a figure competition IF you train and diet hard for 90 days straight.
  • You CAN build muscle IF you are willing to lift strong and get the protein you need for growth.
  • You CAN lose that 10lbs IF you are willing to eat out less and cut back on the alcohol.
  • You CAN have less back pain IF you are willing to stretch and strengthen tight muscles.
  • You CAN have more energy IF you are willing to do more cardio and lose a few pounds.
  • You CAN control your weight IF you start managing calories.
  • You CAN completely change your life IF you are willing to invest in making the changes your body needs.

Everyone Begins at the Start Line

Remember, everyone who has reached their goal was once just like you. Sure, running a marathon may seem absolutely crazy right now. Losing 50lbs may feel like it’s too far out of reach from where you are now. Or, maybe living without back pain would almost seem more like a miracle from how you feel now.  This is where the impossible becomes possible – by doing what is possible for you at this very moment, each and every day, until you get the results you want.


Fast Forward to Success

The Reality of Time
It’s Sunday morning – the day we get an extra hour of sleep as we “Fall Back”. While procrastinating this morning, drinking my coffee extra slow before my morning run, I am reflecting on how we view time. Isn’t it funny how time seems SO LONG when you are talking about the future, yet it seems wickedly FAST when talking about the past?

One of my sisters was talking about her weight loss goals after realizing she was now in the projected month where she would be at her goal weight if she had stuck with her program. November seemed like forever when it was this summer but, now that it’s here, the reality that she could have been at her goal weight right now if she kept with it, hit her like a ton of bricks.

Whether it’s our education, career, family or weight – we must remember how fast time really does go by. 4 years of college seems like eternity, but decades of being in a job you don’t like is truly forever. One year counting calories and working out may seem like eternity too if you have a lot to lose, but living the rest of your life 100lbs overweight is definitely no way to live if you are miserable.

The Key to Staying Motivated
It’s time we put things into perspective. Compare the time it will take to reach your goal to equal time that has already passed you by. It’s a blip on the screen – a flash before your eyes. Just because you feel like it will take forever, doesn’t mean you should push it off any longer. Tackle it, chase it like you would the love of your life. Focus on it like it’s a loose diamond you just dropped and you can’t take your eye off it until you grab a hold of it tightly.

Don’t let life slip through your fingers. Think of how your life would be RIGHT NOW if you tackled what you KNOW you should have tackled last year. Weight, addiction, emotional issues, health, career, family, love, budget, marriage, friendships…they all have the potential to be better soon if you start working on it today.

Fast forward.
Before you can REALLY get a good grip on today’s step toward your goal, put yourself where you will BE once you reach your goal. Picture yourself – how you will look and feel. What you will do? What opportunities may arise?

If your goal is your weight, what will you wear? How will you dress? Will you change your hairstyle? Will you take some professional photos? Will you get out more? Will your lifestyle change? Will you feel more confident, powerful and in control? Will you walk with your head high? Will you be proud of the new you? I’ll answer that – Of course you will!

Instead of just focusing on the “job”, focus on the finished product. Don’t just focus on a pants size or weight. Focus on the reality of how that pants size will feel and how your new weight will affect your entire life. Every time you get off track, fast forward to the future of when you WILL reach that goal – because if you stay on track, you WILL reach that goal. No ifs, ands or buts!

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