This blog is for all of you who have slipped away – the backslidden gym member, client, runner, athlete or dieter.
You’ve probably heard of the return of prodigal son. It’s a story of a son who, after making a ton of mistakes, comes home to his father’s open arms. The same way people backslide in life spiritually, people backslide in fitness. You may have once been that girl or guy who was doing all the right things. Then life happened, and it pulled you away from your ideal way of living. The question I ask is not how you got there, but what you are going to do about it now.
Definition of Backslide: 1.) Drop to a lower level, as in one’s morals or standards. 2.) Lapse into bad habits 3.) To revert to wrongdoing
You Can’t Hide Forever
I run into people all the time, who were once members of our gym, or did a boot camp, and the first thing they do is explain why we haven’t seen them. They begin vomiting excuses and beating themselves up for their weight gain, as if I am judging them for backsliding. Puhlease! If this is you, I will NEVER judge you for gaining weight or not going to the gym. I’m no better and I struggle just like anyone else. It’s not my job to judge, it’s my job to encourage you to return and embrace you when you come back.
Quit Beating Yourself Up
Most people have already beat themselves up for so long on their own – they don’t need other people to do it too. It’s a waste of time and energy on past decisions. People need to be received, encouraged, loved on and reminded that they succeeded once before, so they can do it again – and most people will be so excited to see you “back”, they will take you any way they can. This is especially true in positive environments like a gym or church. They are both in the healing business.
Unfortunately, it seems people will avoid the people and places they need the most during these times. Maybe it’s fear people will “remember when” they were more fit, but that is your own guilt haunting you – not their condemnation. You know good and well, they’d LOVE to see you back in the gym and support your decision to get back on track. The past is the past, and all that matters is what you are doing this very minute.
The fact of the matter is you know what’s best for you. You know when you were the happiest and healthiest. You even know what needs to be done to get back there. The only thing that maybe holding you back now is pride.
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2
Maybe it’s time to suck it up, put your pride aside, and go back “home”. Whether that is a gym, trainer, workout program, running routine, or diet support group – NOW is the time. Don’t say “tomorrow”. Don’t say “next week or next month”. Don’t say “when my son/daughter is…”. Don’t say “when I can…”. NOW is the time. NOW is always the RIGHT time.
*Thank you Rich Chaffin for inspiring my blog today. As always, scripture has the ability to hit home in more ways than one.
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This cartoon by Randy Glasbergen says it all! Why is it we convince ourselves that exercise is an option. Do we really have such a low of self-worth that we like being lazy and complacent over being dead?! Maybe the problem is we’ve gotten used to mediocrity and settled on having less than we want. Maybe not looking as good, not feeling as good or not being as healthy as we would like is OK. NO! IT’S NOT OK!
Maybe you just haven’t had your ‘wake-up call’ or maybe you aren’t quite uncomfortable enough and need to put on another 10lbs until you’re REALLY sick of yourself! I’VE been there!! I think, “exactly how crappy do I have to feel to get my butt in gear?! And when was not being happy with myself OK?” HOW RIDICULOUS AND STUPID OF ME!!
Obesity continues to climb the charts. Just this week our local headlines read “15 years ago Florida’s obesity rate was 49.1%. Now the state waddles in at a gut busting 62.6%”. Maybe the headline should have read “OBESITY KILLS: Only 37.4% of Floridians are safe from the epidemic”.
What is wrong with America? I think it’s pretty simple. We’ve taken this whole freedom and rights thing to an extreme. We’ve become greedy, self-indulging, rebelling and selfish beings who don’t want to practice self-control in any area of our lives. We want to have our cake and eat it too. Well, so do I – but in the end, I’m just left with is icing on my face and fat on my hips…and I don’t even remember what it tasted like! (meaning it’s not worth it!) Read the rest of this entry