Read the quote to the left. One of the reasons we got our inbody body composition machine is for this very reason – people quit when they were SOOOO close to really succeeding. People don’t believe me until they see it in black and white. For instance, in 4 weeks, the inbody would show someone who’s starting a new program can gain 2-4lbs of muscle and lose 4-8lbs of fat. At the end of 4 weeks, someone can feel they worked SOOOOOO hard, only to lose 4lbs – yet they could have lost 8 POUNDS OF FAT, and gained 4 POUNDS OF MUSCLE.
As a result of not seeing the reward they expect, they may give up – because, honestly, is all that dieting and hard work in the gym really worth 4lbs? (I know I’d struggle with that) …BUT (big but), if they continued for another 4 weeks at the same pace, they would lose another 8lbs of fat, totaling 12lbs of fat lost, while keeping the 4lbs of muscle.
I only know this is reality because of our inbody machine, which shows muscles mass, fat mass, water weight and BMR (basal metabolic rate). This is not an ad for the inbody. I’m using this example, and the facts the inbody shows, only to prove my point – which is, you may not be seeing the progress (and how close you are to your goal), but that doesn’t mean it’s not just around the corner. 🙂
So many people convince themselves it’s too late to fix their body. They see is a broken down body that doesn’t run like it used to, and fear they are too tired and out of shape to fix it. That is such a lie. It’s never too late. If you are still breathing, there’s still time to improve the life you have before you.
Like author, Barbara Johnson, said “You can’t turn back the clock, but you can wind it up again”. Boy is that true! Fitness literally winds you back up. It reenergizes you and strengthens you so you run stronger and better. Just like a clock, your ticker (your heart) will even beat better, and be more reliable.
We may not be able to erase all life’s wrinkles without medical treatments to look younger, but we can wind our body back up with fitness to make us FEEL younger.
Whether you are 40 or 80, you can be a better 40 or 80 year old. You can wind yourself back up again!
8 Inspirational People
If you are already thinking about all the reasons this doesn’t apply to you, think again. Look at these amazing people who prove weight, age, injury and disease doesn’t have to stop you from being your absolute best.
This is Mary Ann and I, after doing a CrossFit WOD together at CrossFit One, at Reebok headquarters. She was relatively new to CrossFit, and admitted she was intimidated at first. If she can do it, anyone can!
One of our very own BCx Boot Campers, Suzy Murphy, got fit later in life. Some people may be convinced a program, like boot camp, would be too intense, but she didn’t let her age, doubts or fears stand in her way of success. This is definitely one picture that proves you can roll back the time – she looks SO much younger and healthier!
My own dad (Tom Talley) proves fitness not only can wind you back up, but it can pump you up too! Look at those GUNS! Dad got in the best shape of his life, even after rotator cuff surgery and a long battle with back pain, in his late fifties.
Dr. Josefina Monasterio
One of our clients, Josefina Monasterio, started body building when she was nearly 60. She continues to compete and train, even after major hip surgery.
Gail Griesemer, born with Spina Bifida isn’t letting anything keep her down. She trains regular in our gym (Max Fitness Club) with her trainer, Jack Harris and takes yoga twice a week.
Not every “come-back” is about aging. Sometimes turning back the clock is about recovering from injury, like Jared Dillon, who was told he may never walk again after a serious accident. Fitness didn’t just change his life, it saved it.
Ragen Chastain may not be thin, but she doesn’t let her body fat stop her from dancing and doing what she loves. While others may turn in the sweaty towel, Ragen doesn’t let her body get in the way of what she’s loves to do and who she wants to be.
Of course, the earlier you start, the better. 84 year old, Bette Calman, has taught yoga for 50 years. While many people might be tempted to hang up their hat, she refuses to give up – and still teaches yoga to this day.
Who is YOUR inspiration?
Do you know someone who turned their life around despite their age or circumstance?
In this mantra I say “failure is not final – unless you give up” but in reality, failure isn’t final until your dead.
If you’ve followed me for any length of time, you know that I tend to be brutally honest. In a world filled with diet and fitness companies promising the sun, moon and stars, I feel people are in desperate need for honesty – and that’s not just with fitness. Make-up companies promise to make your skin look flawless (yeah, right!), clothing brands lead you to believe you NEED their clothes to feel great about yourself, and food products make you think you will bite your way into happiness if you can just taste their newest creation.
Out of all the advertisers in the world, fitness brands are absolutely the WORST. They will do anything it takes (lie, cheat & steal) to convince you that their gimmick will work for you and it will be easy to succeed – and that’s why I think it is SO important to be honest with people. You need to know the truth. You need to have realistic expectations. Sometimes the truth is encouraging, and sometimes is may be discouraging. In this case, it’s a little of both. The discouraging truth is: You Will Fail. The encouraging truth is: You can try as many times as you want. There’s no limit to the number of attempts you can make – AND the more you try, (like the LOTTO) the more chances you have to succeed. Except with fitness, the odds of success are in your favor.
Quitting Doesn’t Have To Be Forever
OK, so we all fail. But, if you really think about it, we have all been quitters too. Even if we wouldn’t call ourself a “quitter”, we are all quitters at some point and time. Most of us have tried something and quit something. Does that mean you won’t try again and give it another shot? No, it just means you quit for a period of time. Your success just depends on how long you decide to quit for, and how long it takes you to recover from each failure. Some people fail and immediately try again the next day. Others stay down for weeks, month and sometimes years before they try and get back up again.
In the diet and fitness world, failure is going to happen. BUT, as SOON as you try again, you are no longer a failure or a quitter.
You may be sitting in front of the computer reading this as a quitter. Maybe you tried the latest diet and it didn’t work for you. Or, you didn’t workout this week, or eat as well as you wanted to. Maybe you have already called it quits (at least for this week) – or, maybe you haven’t purposefully quit, but you just quit trying.
Maybe you tried all week (and failed), so you are “quitting” this weekend. Meaning, you didn’t quite do what you set out to do this week, so you are not even going to try to workout or diet over the weekend because you plan to start over Monday. Even though you haven’t quit for good, you are quitting for the weekend.
Quit Quitting! You still have 3 days left – today, tomorrow and Sunday to make this week a success – and not a failure. Decide today to allow less time to lapse in between failures and to keep trying over and over and over again. Because, as long as you don’t quit trying, you will never be a failure no matter how many times you fail.
We all have our share of struggles. From struggling with our weight, our workouts, our marriage, our carriers, our family, our finances….we all experience tough times. But there is a great reward for toughing it out and not giving up.
My grandfather, who was a Geologist, once explained to me that Diamonds weren’t always beautiful. They were formed from ugly rock buried deep beneath the earth, under great amounts of pressure and extreme temperatures over long periods of time. I’ll never forget him explaining that to me – and I think about it all the time.
Some of the greatest accomplishments require us to withstand extreme pressure and uncomfortable situations, deep beneath the earth (unnoticed and unappreciated) for long periods of time – and it’s not until we are finished enduring what it takes to be molded and transformed into what God has intended for us, that we can ever quit. If we truly want to be transformed, we can’t avoid it.
If you try to avoid it, and quit too soon, you will remain the “ugly rock” – unfinished. If you stick it out, you can be totally transformed, sculpted into something beautiful, inside and out. I’m not just talking about outer beauty and sculpted muscle. I’m talking about a total transformation process – transforming your mind, your spirit, your body and your life.
There is a reason God allows us to struggle at times. It is required for transformation. There is a reason we aren’t “lifted up” out of the shadows and dirt – sometimes we are just not ready to shine …yet. There is a reason we get humbled. Many times, our ugly pride needs to be crushed.There are reasons we experience sloooooooow success, it grows patience and forces us to rely on God more than ourselves.
There are reasons fitness takes work, it teaches us discipline and self-control. It teaches us about calories, about our body and bout what we are capable of. It shows us our potential. It challenges us, it humbles us, it drives us, it exposes our weaknesses and shows us our strengths.
I encourage you today, no matter what you are going through in life, or in your fitness journey, remember to continue to endure and not give up so you can be radically transformed. You are a diamond in the making. Stick it out.
Albert Einstein once said “It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.” Isn’t that how all rewards work? Greatness doesn’t happen overnight – and the person that reaches greatness is the last man standing.
People like Albert Einstein succeed, not because they try, but because they don’t give up on continuing to try. They try, try, and try again – no matter what the result is. That means you have to be ready for failure, because you know good and well you won’t succeed the first time around – and probably not the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th time either.
A person, like Einstein, has to embrace failures, obstacles, roadblocks and problems. They have to be OK to be “in the middle of it”, even when they don’t see how they’ll get through it – yet. Much like solving an equation, training and dieting takes a certain level of problem solving. It requires troubleshooting, tweaking, analyzing, redoing, trying it one way, trying it another way…until you get the results you want.
You can’t get mad when one formula doesn’t work. You just have to try another one, until you find what works for you. And, no matter how frustrated you get, you can celebrate that you are getting stronger, wiser and smarter in the process.
Note, Einstein refers to his work as “problems”. He had physics problems, we may have weight problems. Either way, we can learn from his statement. We can all be like Albert Einstein, and be smarter, stronger, better – simply because we refuse to give up.
Read more Einstein Quotes at http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/a/albert_einstein.html#PXK739ZJZCz1p85M.99
I’ve Fallen, and I Can’t Get Up
When I talk about fitness and dieting, I often refer to falling and getting back up again. Maybe it’s because I’m a clutz and relate to falling, or maybe it’s just because falling is a part of life.
We’re human and it’s inevitable that we will mess up – and there is no truer example than with diet and fitness. However, I don’t think it’s all about just preventing the failure, I think the most important action is what we do after we fail.
I think it’s healthy to allow ourselves to cheat occasionally. It’s almost like planning a controlled fall. Stunt men do it all the time. They learn how to fall without getting hurt. We all know eating certain foods aren’t healthy, but we “allow” ourselves to have them. But, if we don’t plan it carefully, and practice safety measures, we can find ourselves in big trouble quick.
While some people planned their Thanksgiving cheat meals out carefully, there are others that just threw out all the rules, and dove face first into every dish that came their way. Whether we convinced ourselves that “we deserved it” or acted like we really didn’t care, eventually our bad choices catch up to us. The feeling of disappointment and guilt might hit us as soon as we finish the last bite, or it might take days of repetitive bad behavior to finally get us to the point of being sick of how those bad choices make us look and feel. However long it takes us to reach that point, when we finally get to that point, it’s time for damage control.
It’s time for you (and the scale) to face the facts.
Some people are quick to jump back on the scale and boldy face reality. One thing I can guarantee is this: You WILL eventually deal with all this. You can deal with it now or later – the choice is yours.
3 Post Holiday Scenarios: Which One Will You Choose?
1. Stay Knocked Down. This is what most people do after a Holiday – especially when there is another excuse (like another Holiday) right around the corner. They decide it’s going to be impossible to fight, too hard to manage, not enough time, no fun, or not worth the effort. So, they just give up and pretend they can continue through the Holidays without repercussions. The problem with this is, if you do this often enough, it becomes a pattern. Weight continues to creep up on you – and before you know it, you are in way over your head, and you may be tempted to quit for good.
2. Get Back Up – slowly. This person waits for the ref to count all the way to 9 before they get back up again. They are procrastinator, slow learners and naturally lazy (like me – yes ME!). Sometimes it takes a friend (or dog!) to drag them back to the gym. But, most of the time, this person will try everything under the sun before doing what they know they need to do. They’ll cut everything out they don’t mind forfeiting and try making “their way” work by finagling diets and fitness around their lifestyle. Then they will complain when they fail. They will justify their actions, make a million excuses, and, finally, at the very last minute (when they just can’t take it any longer), they will stand back up and get back to what they know works.
3. Bounce Back Fast – The person who is fast to recover and quickly gets back on their feet, accepts what has to be done and doesn’t waste any valuable time. They get right back on their diet, and get right back in the gym – as fast as they possibly can. They may dread it, they may not want to do it, but they do it anyway because they’ve either learned the hard way or they hate feeling fat and unhealthy more than they hate the work it takes to stay fit. They could easily wallow in their sorrows and beat themselves up while their down, but they don’t. The get over it. They move on. They get back up on their own two feet – and fight it back out.
So, you ate like crap – get over it, it’s time to get back up!
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Joyce Meyer said “If you aren’t willing to get hurt, you can’t love”. Another words, love requires risks – and that same principle applies to fitness, because it too requires the risk of failure. If you aren’t willing to experience failures from time to time, then you will never experience success in anything you attempt to do and do well.
Although Fred Astaire could have totally given up (see above quote), he didn’t let that judge stop him. Wikipedia describes him as “a successful American film and Broadway stage dancer, choreographer, singer, musician and actor. His stage and subsequent film career spanned a total of 76 years, during which he made 31 musical films.” As Kelly Olexa says, “Booyah!” Take that Mr. Judgey boy! He sure showed you!
Failure Doesn’t Have to Be the End, It Could be the Beginning
Failure isn’t the end, it’s part of the journey. Quitting is the end – and it’s simply not an option when it comes to working out and dieting. Failing is just part of life, if you plan to do bigger and better things. Failing, at times, is inevitable.
Think about it. How many times must one strike out before they learn to hit a ball? Failing is part of practicing and fitness takes practice. Diet takes practice. Weight training takes practice. Running takes practice. And, learning how to manage calories going in and out takes practice.
Here are some of my favorite “failures” on the way to success featured on the Business Insider:
JERRY SEINFIELD: The first time Jerry Seinfeld went onstage, he was booed away by the jeering crowd.
WALT DISNEY was fired by a newspaper editor because he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.”
ALBERT EINSTEIN Albert Einstein didn’t speak until age four and didn’t read until age seven. His teachers labeled him “slow” and “mentally handicapped.”
R.H. MACY had a history failing businesses, including a dud Macy’s in NYC.
COLONEL SANDERS, Harland David Sanders, the famous KFC “Colonel,” couldn’t sell his chicken. More than 1,000 restaurants rejected him.
DR. SEUSS‘ first book was rejected by 27 different publishers.
HARRISON FORD: After his first film, Harrison Ford underwhelmed the producer and was told he would probably never succeed.
OPRAH WINFREY was fired from her television reporting job because they told her she wasn’t fit to be on screen.
Don’t quit, don’t stop …success maybe right around the corner! #getafterit
EXCUSE (k-skyz) Relieve, rationalize, explain, pardon, condone, exempt, rationalise, apologize, justify…
Training for a body building show can be pretty intense. The training, additional cardios, extreme dieting, and keeping up with all the supplements (listed below) can all be pretty overwhelming even when things are going smoothly. Then add an injury to the mix and you’ve got new beast to battle.
Steve Pfiester is not the only one to suffer a devastating injury prior to fitness event. Most athletes face some kind of injury at some point in their career. For Steve, it’s was a torn MCL and medial meniscus just 10 days prior to his bodybuilding show in Daytona. When something like this happens, it can throw you into depression fast if you let it. Key word: “Let“.
You can let an injury take control of you, or you can take control of it. The choice is yours. For Steve, he decided to go forward and do the contest despite his knee. As part of the preparation, I had to mix his music for his night performance and I wanted it to reflect his circumstance. In search for a motivational sound bite, I had a feeling Eric Thomas “The Hip Hop Preacher“, known for encouraging athletes, would have something cool that would fit Steve’s situation- and I found one of the most profound statements I’d heard in a long time.
“It’s not about making excuses, it’s about making adjustments”.
In addition to all Steve’s normal training and dieting, now he had to go to Dr. Stepanek’s office to get cold laser therapy twice a day, which he felt was really helping. In addition to therapy, he had to ice his knee as many times a day as possible – all between clients, training, eating, teaching boot camps and running a gym.
He also had to adjust his workout routine around exercises that didn’t hurt. Hamstring curls and squats were impossible, but leg extensions and straight leg dead lifts were okay. He had to keep up his cardio, so he traded running outside for melting fat on the elliptical in the gym. And, he had to do it all on less sleep because his knee pain kept him up at night.
His knee required him to adjust the way he walked and performed even simple tasks, like getting in and out of bed or putting his pants on. He even had adjust his clothing around wearing a brace, and he added compression socks to his daily wardrobe. Adjustment was his middle name.
Making adjustments can be a pain (sometimes literally), but necessary when you want something bad enough. However, most of us use the tiniest excuse to stop us dead in our tracks. Instead of listing all the things you CAN do, we use that one thing to convince of the things we CAN’T do.
It wasn’t that Steve wanted to win a bodybuilding show that bad. He didn’t need another trophy or the notoriety. He needed to follow through with what he had planned. He needed to reach his goal, which was to do his very best – not necessarily to BE the very best.
Steve showed up, knee brace and all, and won both his weight classes. But, even if he didn’t win, he knew in his heart he did his very best with his circumstance – and that’s what fitness is all about. It’s not about perfection, it’s about dedication.
What excuse are you allowing to paralyze you right now? For every excuse you are using, someone else is overcoming. Just because you have a good excuse doesn’t mean you have to use it. Finish what you started.