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Are You Lying to Yourself?

call it what it isHave you ever been afraid to verbalize something in fear it would make it more real? I believe we have a way of candy-coating the truths in our lives by not calling things what they are.

Recently I was listening to a message about Joseph, the coat of many colors guy who was sold to slavery and raised up to leadership. He was a loyal worker, and had great favor where ever he went. It also said he was EXTREMELY handsome. As a result, his boss’s wife tried to seduce him. His response was “How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God“. This may not seem like a big statement here, but how many times do we respond to doing something wrong with calling it what it really is?

Joseph not only saw it wasn’t right, but he saw just how seriously wrong it was – not just that it wasn’t right to do to his boss, but he saw how it wasn’t right to do to God. Talk about taking things up a notch!

What if we were to be more truthful with our struggles, thoughts and actions? What if we started being more honest with ourself and with others? I believe in my heart, we let things (problems) linger in our life because we never really truly address them in truth.

There needs to be a time when we all look in the mirror and we face the things we try to run from. Here are a few examples:

I can’t lose weight.
Am I really doing everything I can do?

I probably should cut back the wine.
Am I an alcoholic?

I need more time and money.
Am I using my time and money wisely?

I don’t want to join a gym.
Am I letting my pride get in the way of my health?

I just really like her/him a lot.
I am married and I am fighting an attraction which is wrong and will never be right.

I eat really healthy.
Could I still be eating too much?

I love food.
Am I letting food control me?

You fill in the blanks…..
We all have our issues and our demons we must face. For Joseph, it was a constant pursuing of his boss’s wife – even when he was doing all the right things. BUT, he never gave into temptation because he never stopped seeing it for what it was.

I challenge you today to face your struggles head on, write them down, talk about them with someone you love and trust. You can never win a battle you never admit you are having. 🙂

Do I Look Fat in These Jeans?

Truth or Lie? What would you rather hear?
“Do I look fat in these jeans?” Maybe our husbands should say Yes, you do”. Maybe it would be exactly what we need to hear to actually do something about it. If we are asking him if we look fat, we likely FEEL fat. Why isn’t that enough to send us running to the gym? We don’t need more enablers, we need more supporters – people to hold us accountable and push us to greatness, not support us to settle. The truth hurts sometimes, but it’s necessary for growth. I vote for truth, even if it hurts. Living a lie hurts more.

I’d have to question the honesty of the person who told Jessica Simpson she looked good in the infamous “Mom Jeans” in her 2009 tabloid loving performance. Poor thing got butchered for how she looked in this outfit, which is a shame because she’s a beautiful girl and I believe the outfit made her look a lot heavier than she really was.

I can’t count the number of times I hear someone say “You’re looking great. Keep it up” even after someone hasn’t lost a pound while on a new diet and exercise program. This kind of lie is detrimental and it wastes valuable time. This person doesn’t need to hear “you’re doing great”, they need to hear the truth, which still can be delivered in a positive supportive manor.  Read the rest of this entry

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