People aren’t just born awesome, they decide to TRY to be awesome – and with practice, they become more awesome every day. Fear is the #1 roadblock to greatness. They don’t let fear stop them from dreaming, trying or quitting. They recognize there is a risk on the quest for greatness. Your “greatness” maybe being a great mom, the healthiest you, a successful career person, a person who dedicates their life to making a difference. I’m not talking about money or power, I’m talking about being the best you can be. The healthiest you, the strongest you, the best you.
Sure you may fail. You may feel embarrassed. You may not get the results you want fast enough. You may not be the greatest on the planet, but I guarantee you, if you TRY you will be better than you ever could be without trying. What you should really fear is never trying to find out what you could do and who you could be if you don’t let fear get in the way.
Is what you are doing right now stretching you? Are you a little uncomfortable? Are you are little scared? Are you pushing your body. Are you challenging yourself with good habits and discipline? Are you depriving yourself of the temporary to be better longterm? If you aren’t doing these things, you will never see your very best. You will never become the best you possible.
Get ready to be motivated and be ready to take your life to the next level – more commitment, more confidence, more determination, more dedication, more perseverance. You. Can. Do. This!
My latest blog at Designer Whey is all about girl power – why we love it and yet why so many girls still don’t have it.
Admittedly, tough training is catching on. As the fitness world continues to move in a more intense training direction, there are more women training harder than ever before. Ladies are skipping traditional 5Ks to do races like the Tough Mudder and Warrior Dash – and they love it. Even still, the majority of women are so focused on fat they neglect their muscles.
Fears Vs Facts
Why aren’t more women hitting the weights like they should? Here’s my top 5 reasons, and my answers:
Steve and Bonnie Pfiester are resident trainers for Designer Whey, America’s #1 protein company.
Are you an enabler? Do let yucky stuff hang around a little too long? Do you let people and things get you down? Do you beat yourself up unnecessarily after you make mistakes? Maybe you do even worse and dive into self-destruction when life gets tough.
Did you know you have more control over yourself than you think? You do! You may not be able to help what happens to you, but you sure as heck can change the way you respond to it.
Leap of Faith
Let’s look at my recent Zip-lining experience for a second. First, you should know I’m scared of heights. I don’t like them at all. I also am not very fond of trying new things. I’m a one of those girls who likes to take things slowly. I prefer to test the waters before I take the plunge, if you know what I mean.
Well, with Zip-lining there was no “testing the waters” first. My first experience was hooking in and taking a leap off a 30 foot platform and zipping across a mountain top to another 30 foot platform 100 feet away.
Not only was I anxious about the leap of faith I was about to take, but the guides chose me to go first. Go figure! As tough as I’d like to pretend to be, I am definitely a “go last” kinda girl. This day was different. It was a day I decided to react differently to my situation and it really opened my eyes to how I treat a lot of stuff in life.
Don’t Look Down
How often do we focus on looking down, instead of looking ahead? Normally I would ALLOW myself to stress out and let my fears boss me around, focusing on the negative. I would think of all the “what ifs” and leave no time to think about the fun part. I would be consumed with wondering how I can get out of it or how I could get everyone else to go first to buy me some more time. Of course, during this extra time, it would just allow me more time to worry, stress out, and be more afraid. Stupid! Stupid!
Practice Makes Perfect
Instead of reacting like I have “practiced” reacting in the past, I decided to practice a new reaction. I decided to just hook in, take a deep breath, and let the rational side of me lead the irrational me. I chose to just take the plunge without allowing myself to stress out for one more minute. I focused on the landing (goal) and told myself I am fully capable of doing this – and doing it well. And you know what? I did it, and I didn’t allow my fear to ruin my fun.
I pushed doubt and fear aside and CHOSE to focus on the fun part. Zipping through the trees, enjoying amazing views, feeling the wind through my hair, and completely relying on my zipline to carry me without one single doubt.
Zipping Through Life
Not everyone goes zip-lining everyday, but zipping through life is no different. So often we let our fears ruin our fun. We live life focusing on the “what ifs” instead of just enjoying the moment. We let the forecast of tomorrows clouds ruin today’s sunshine.
You can choose to stress about all that COULD possibly go wrong or you can focus on everything that IS going right. No matter how bad life gets, there are so many things to be thankful for. Even something as simple as love. There are rich people who would die to have someone to love them. Or maybe you stress about your weight, yet there is someone who just dreams of being healthy.
Fitness is not just about lifting weights and burning fat. Like GNC says, it’s about”Living Well“. It’s about learning how to train your physical body, your mental body and your spiritual body to be as fit as it can possibly be.
Just Let Go
Holding on to stress, fears, resentment, depression and other bad feelings is not healthy – and it doesn’t help a single thing. Whatever is going on in your life right now that’s stressing you out, maybe you are holding on too tightly to it and you just need to let go – and KEEP letting it go.
It’s not just enough to let go once. Believe me, you’ll keep taking it right back. You will find yourself being sucked right back into fears and stress, so you will have to consciously and repeatedly let it go until it becomes a natural response.
Take your fitness to a new level and reshape your mind too – and zip through life with more ease!
People often fear failure so much they don’t even try. Maybe it’s the fear of wasting time. Some people are afraid of wasting hard work and energy with no results. Others simply let pride get in the way and just avoid trying so they don’t have to publicly fail or be embarrassed. However, maybe you’d think differently if you were to focus on what trying does – even if you don’t succeed like you’d hoped.
1. It gives you experience. There are very few people I’ve met who lose weight the very first attempt. Probably because they don’t go about it the correct way at first, but it’s that experience that teaches them along the way. Sure, people can tell you what you should or shouldn’t do until their blue in the face, but many people won’t listen until they experience it for themselves. With each attempt, you learn what you like and don’t like. You learn what got you results and what set you back. You also learn patience, and that is definitely something someone has to have when it comes to working on the physique. Either way, all my valuable experience and knowledge has not come from success, it’s come from failures too.
2. It exposes your flaws. I’m not talking about physical flaws, I’m talking about personality flaws. When you attempt a challenge, you learn yourself. It doesn’t take long to discover the areas that need improvement in your life. Trying something new grows you, changes you, and improves you – if you let it.
3. It shows you your strengths. I can’t tell you how many people come to me and say “I never thought I could do this”. How could they if they never tried it before. Whether it’s doing a push-up or running a 5K, there are so many people who are blown away by their own strengths simply because they never even tried.
4. It teaches you. Once you’ve failed, you know what not to do – and honestly, that is a very valuable lesson. Like a scientist experiments with trial and error, you are your own scientist working to reinvent your body. Through various trial and errors, you learn what works and what doesn’t work. Just like Thomas Edison said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Although teachers said Thomas Edison was not bright, frustrating them so much his mom took him out of school, he ended up holding the world record of 1093 US patents for inventions such as the 1st commercial light bulb, phonogragh and the motion picture camera (Hollywood thanks you!).
If you have been resisting exercise, diet or a fitness challenge, like doing a race, have no more fear. Instead, go for it – knowing no matter what, you will end up a better person with a lot of really cool lessons learned along the way.
A child can’t walk on their 1st try. Success comes with practice – and many falls.
I woke up this morning thinking about failure and how our “falls” in life are necessary to grow stronger. It made me think of a child. When trying to get a baby to walk, if he or she could speak, I am sure the words that would come out of his or her mouth would be “but mom, I can’t” – but they CAN and DO!
Of course they only start walking after about a million falls, wiggle/wobbles and tears, but they eventually walk – and before you know it, they are so good at it you have to hold their hand so they don’t run off.
You can – and WILL
Fitness is the same way. When we have a brand new boot camper, the words “I can’t” often come out of their mouths. “I can’t run”, “I can’t do push ups”, “I can’t lift that” – and you know what? They CAN and DO. Read the rest of this entry