I believe many people are waiting for motivation to show up – as if they can’t make any progress without it. Feeling motivated comes and goes, so you can’t rely on it to keep you going. Science, however, is constant. The work you put in will always reap a reward. If you are one of those people who keep waiting to “feel” motivated, STOP. Stop wasting precious time waiting on a feeling to show up. Instead, use your noggin. Focus on the facts. Focus on the reward, not the work.
Although there are times I feel energized to run, and jacked to lift – they are too few and far between to rely on those feelings to keep me going. So, I rely on routine, discipline, commitment and follow through to get me where I want to be.
Why do I focus on motivational quotes and photos to help others? Because I’m the most unmotivated person I know. I know what I have to tell myself day after day to get to the gym. I know what it takes to talk myself out of ordering french fries. Fitness does not come easy for me. I’d rather lay on the beach and eat a burger like this chick! But I know how it will make me feel afterwards, and it ain’t pretty. Do you want to know where all my motivational quotes come from? They come from my own daily struggles, lessons learned and many failures.
Feeling motivated can be pretty magical, but being disciplined is way more powerful. No matter how you feel or how you perform, as long as you keep showing up and doing the work, you WILL get the reward. Keep Showing Up.
You Shape You. Not your past, not your friends, not your circumstance.
How often do we play the victim? Whether we struggle with our weight or our finances, most of the time our circumstance is a result of poor decisions. We struggle with our weight, because we lack discipline. We can make excuses until we’re blue in the face, but ultimately, no excuse is of any real value. We are in debt to our eyeballs because we live past our means. We struggle with relationships because we are selfish and we treat people poorly – especially the ones we love most. Even the best of us, the good-hearted, mess up. Most of the time, we do get what we deserve to a certain extent.
Some of history’s “greats” had everything going against them.
Sure, there are many things that happen to us that are not fair. Cancer is not fair. Losing a job may not be fair. Life often is unfair – BUT, that does not justify quitting or not trying. We fight. We grow. We improve. We learn. We inspire. We conquer.
If you’ve been unhappy with your weight, your finances, your marriage, your life…Don’t fall for the “woe is me” downward spiral. Fight for what you want. Fight to become who God intended you to be. Don’t always do what’s easy. Do what’s RIGHT. Don’t settle. Don’t make excuses. And never give up – because it will always be worth it. No regrets!
I see tons of people sweating it out at the gym – sometimes twice a day, working so incredibly hard. Why? It’s not because they have some photo shoot or competition. It’s not to get shredded. No, they have this insane dedication to working out because they have no dedication to eating right.
Me? I’m too lazy for that non-sense. I’d rather eat less than workout for 3 hours a day. As I always say, I don’t live to workout. It will always be a push for me to get my workout in. So, I choose to be careful with what I eat so I don’t have to do it any more than necessary.
However, there are many people who don’t mind working it off at all. I actually believe it’s therapy for them – and not really the good kind. Since many of them live at the gym, they know good and well they shouldn’t drink a twelve pack on the weekend and eat whatever the heck they want. So, come Monday it’s punishment time. It’s time to erase their sins.
They don’t get mad, because they know they don’t deserve to get mad. In their mind, they deserve as many brutal workouts as they can squeeze in. The sweatier, the better. The workouts help them to become proud of themselves again. When they know they aren’t proud of how they eat, the can at least be proud of what they do. And even if they hold 40 extra pounds, people around them would never call them lazy – because they work so hard.
Don’t get me wrong. If this is you, you are stronger. You are healthier. You are likely more tone. BUT, think of how amazing you would look and feel if you gave your plate the workout you gave your body.
This yo-yo lifestyle is not healthy. It’s not good for you emotionally and it’s not teaching you how to live healthy long-term. You can’t continue all your life beating your body up day after day because you can’t control your eating. Moderation is key to long-term success. Don’t punish your body for your mouth’s mistakes. The mouth is what needs taming so your body can begin enjoying the reward for once.
Even with extreme workouts, remember, extreme workouts can never erase extreme eating. Food always wins.
pFIT TIP: It takes approximately 10 miles to run off one average size restaurant dinner.
Yesterday I talked about willpower, today I want to just talk about the will.
We’ve already determined that will means “to choose”, however, I still feel people initially think it means desire, or an inner strength, that we don’t have control of.
The first time I really thought about the word “will” was in my mom’s kitchen 18 years ago, when my mom was talking to me about marriage. As I was approaching our wedding date, mom explained to me that all the lovey-dovey feelings Steve and I currently had would eventually change. Not that our love would go away, but it would be different. She said “Love is not a feeling, it’s a choice. At some point in your marriage, you won’t ‘feel’ like loving Steve, but you will have to choose to continue to love Steve.”
This, coming from a woman who has been married to her high school sweet heart for over 40 years now, was information I needed to know. WHAT? You mean, you had times in your life where you didn’t love dad? Yup! There were times where she chose to love him even when she didn’t “feel” like it. Of course, when you do this, eventually your feelings change, and catch back up again, but these are the times many marriages give up.
Well, fast forward 18 years and I can say – She was right. Yes, you heard it mom! You were right. 🙂 Steve and I have had those times and we knew in our heart we had to make the RIGHT decision no matter how we felt in the moment, and boy does it pay off – and the same goes for fitness.
We are faced with decisions everyday of things we don’t want to do, but things we SHOULD do. Like a marriage, we must make the RIGHT decisions, not the one that is easiest, or feels the best in the moment. Making the right choice will always pay off in the end.
Instead of saying “when there’s a will, there’s a way” we should say “our will makes the way” because making the right choices paves the way to success.
Don’t take the easy way out. It’s only temporary relief that prevents a long-term reward.
If this hit home for you, then read Steve’s blog today for more motivation and encouragement to do what is right for your body, right for your life.
”I discipline my body like an athlete, training it to do what it should. Otherwise, I fear that after preaching to others I myself might be disqualified.” 1 Cor. 9:27
Of course I love it when scripture refers to athletes, but the reason I love this one so much is it reminds me doing what we SHOULD do takes WORK. How much work? Well, one version says “I beat my body and make it my slave”. Another says, “I keep it under control”. Basically, the author (Paul), is using some harsh words to get his point across and to describe just how hard it is to control your body.
Of course Paul is talking about the spiritual things in life, but there is nothing our body wants to do on its own that is good or right – not even stay healthy because that takes work too. It’s like our body and spirit are two different people, joined together, both trying to worship two different Gods. My spirit wants to worship the God Almighty and live to His high standards, but my body wants to worship Satan, the deceiver that says his way is more fun.
My body wants to be lazy – to eat, sleep, and want for everything, but not work for anything. No matter how I grow in my spirit, my body’s desires will never change. The only thing that changes is how good I get at keeping it under my control.
This is why I believe self-examination is always in order. How do you know if you are improving in school? You take a test. How do you know you are improving in your spiritual walk? Your faith is tested. And how do you know if you are improving in fitness? You guessed it – you take tests.
Maybe you’ve been floating around gym too long, doing the same old routine over and over. Maybe you treat going to the gym like going to church on Sundays – just a time to clock in and clock out because that’s the “right thing to do”.
You say you’re faster, but how much faster? You say you’re stronger, but how much stronger? Maybe it’s time to test your fitness routine and see if it is actually working.
3 ways to test your fitness:
1. You should perform better
2. You should be improving your body composition (weight & body fat vs muscle)
3. Your doctor should report health improvements
Quitting is not just stopping – Quitting also happens when you quit trying to improve. There is no room for complacency in life. There is ALWAYS room for improvement – and as soon as you forget that, you’ve quit on yourself. You have the potential to do greater things – whether you do them is up to your effort to always work on improving – both spiritually and physically.
BCx Performance Test:
Test your body regularly to make sure you are always improving. Whether you have never worked out a day in your life or you workout all the time, these exercises will strengthen you, challenge you and help you to track improvements. Even if you are 80 years old, you still have to SQUAT down to get something, PUSH UP off the floor, PULL UP after a fall, SIT UP out of bed and RUN to avoid something (or someone ha!). These activities will help you until the day you die, so if they are already things you do, why not make sure you can do them well – and better and better?
Do the following exercises as many times as you can in 60 seconds and record the time:
1. Air Squats
2. Push Ups
5. Sit Ups
6. 1/4 mile run (do this for time)
Do this regularly, including it in your weekly workout routine for the best results.
Have you ever really, REALLY, REAAALLLY thought about what you want? Sure, everyone would say they don’t want to be fat and would love to have a great physique – but do they REALLY WANT IT? Maybe we should change the question.
“Do you want to give up your favorite junk food, alcohol and sodas? Do you want to give up some of your valuable time to spend in the gym training, sweating and occasionally (OK, often) hurting? Do you want to run even if it’s hot outside, workout even when you are tired, and eat small portions even when you are starved? That’s the reality behind wanting to get fit.” Sure, there are awesome rewards to being fit too, but you have to get through the ‘getting fit’ before you start ‘feeling fit’.
Let’s break it down like this. When Steve and I were preparing to buy our lake house, he told me we’d have to be really frugal to save and pay down some debt. This was much easier said than done. Since I love to shop, this was a challenge for me. My instinct was to live life like I always had – but Steve would stop me in my tracks with this question: “Do you want to buy a house or do you want to buy some clothes – ’cause you can’t do both?” Read the rest of this entry