Yesterday I talked about willpower, today I want to just talk about the will.
We’ve already determined that will means “to choose”, however, I still feel people initially think it means desire, or an inner strength, that we don’t have control of.
The first time I really thought about the word “will” was in my mom’s kitchen 18 years ago, when my mom was talking to me about marriage. As I was approaching our wedding date, mom explained to me that all the lovey-dovey feelings Steve and I currently had would eventually change. Not that our love would go away, but it would be different. She said “Love is not a feeling, it’s a choice. At some point in your marriage, you won’t ‘feel’ like loving Steve, but you will have to choose to continue to love Steve.”
This, coming from a woman who has been married to her high school sweet heart for over 40 years now, was information I needed to know. WHAT? You mean, you had times in your life where you didn’t love dad? Yup! There were times where she chose to love him even when she didn’t “feel” like it. Of course, when you do this, eventually your feelings change, and catch back up again, but these are the times many marriages give up.
Well, fast forward 18 years and I can say – She was right. Yes, you heard it mom! You were right. 🙂 Steve and I have had those times and we knew in our heart we had to make the RIGHT decision no matter how we felt in the moment, and boy does it pay off – and the same goes for fitness.
We are faced with decisions everyday of things we don’t want to do, but things we SHOULD do. Like a marriage, we must make the RIGHT decisions, not the one that is easiest, or feels the best in the moment. Making the right choice will always pay off in the end.
Instead of saying “when there’s a will, there’s a way” we should say “our will makes the way” because making the right choices paves the way to success.
Don’t take the easy way out. It’s only temporary relief that prevents a long-term reward.
If this hit home for you, then read Steve’s blog today for more motivation and encouragement to do what is right for your body, right for your life.
Think of all the good decisions we would make if we could honestly answer this question: “Would this be wise or foolish?”
THINK ABOUT THIS:
“Would it be WISE or FOOLISH to: Skip my workout?”
“Would it be WISE or FOOLISH to: Forgive my friend?”
“Would it be WISE or FOOLISH to: Eat that?”
“Would it be WISE or FOOLISH to: Buy that car?”
“Would it be WISE or FOOLISH to: Go to bed angry?”
and the list goes on…
This one statement could change everything if you can make the time to stop and answer the question. Unfortunately many of us stay so busy and rushed we don’t STOP and actually THINK about what we are about to do. Once you are faced with the question that must be answered honestly, then you KNOW you are even more foolish if you still choose the foolish route.
TIPS TO MAKING BETTER, HEALTHIER DECISIONS:
1.) Take the time to weigh the facts
2.) Think about the possible repercussions
3.) Make MORE decisions based on WISDOM and less on feelings, temptations and spontaneous reactions.
4.) If you honestly can’t answer the question. Ask yourself this: “Will I be satisfied with this decision later or will I have regret?”
5.) Forgive yourself for prior poor choices and don’t look back. Keep your eyes on the prize!
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“Wisdom is doing NOW what you will be satisfied with LATER“, Joyce Meyer.
This statement rings true, especially in fitness. Think of all the times we say “I shouldn’t have eaten so much” or “I should have gone to the gym”. We all make bad decisions from time to time, but many people are rarely making good ones.
So often people live in condemnation and regret because they continue to make decisions they regret later. Then they lay in bed at night thinking of all the things they did wrong, and the changes they need to make, only to wake up the next day to repeat the same self-destructive behavior.
A person who acts without thinking of the future often lives bogged down with regret, guilt, depression, discouragement and even hopelessness – and that’s no way to live!
By procrastinating, you are wasting precious time you’ll never get back, leaving you with less and less time you could be living thin, energetic, strong, confident and healthy lives. Sadly, some people wait for years.
My parents waited until they were in their late 50s to get fit. Granted they love their new lives, but I’m sure they wish they would have gotten their act together earlier in life.
We live at such a fast pace we practically don’t even allow time to make decisions. Instead, we do things without even thinking. Then we act surprised when those decisions lead us away from where we want to be.
If we were honest, this one simple question would prevent many poor choices: “will I regret this later?” Even simple tasks like skipping a workout or ordering French fries can cause regret.