Dressing Room Danger: Are You Dressing Around Your Fat

Is Fat Your Fashion Designer?

This picture really captures the feeling of how fat really feels. Shoving your big butt in jeans and trying to zip up pants you know good and well did not shrink. And, how about squatting down a few times to stretch out your jeans so they don’t look like you painted them on and choosing a shirt that doesn’t show your muffin top and back fat? Sound a little too familiar?

Do You Dress Around Your Fat?
We often choose clothing that masks our problem areas instead of actually choosing to fix the problem. Not to say some of us are actually working on it, however, I do think some of us continue to allow our fat to determine our dress code, which allows more room for error and totally sets us up for failure.

What if you couldn’t buy new “fat clothes”. What if you had to wear skin tight clothing that you struggled to squeeze into every day. Then, every time you looked in the mirror you saw every exposed fold and bump. How much more motivated would you be to get rid of the junk in your trunk? I don’t know about you, but that constant uncomfortable reminder would surely definitely motivate me!

What if you had to wear a bikini to work every day. Or worse, you were forced to wear jeans that used to fit with no shirt, exposing the rolls that fold over your waistband. Eeeeek!! I bet you’d RUN to the gym.

I believe, many people are actually enabling weight gain by continuing to buy “fat clothes” to hide their weaknesses so they don’t have to actually work on them. Celebs like Kirstie Alley have been known to hit tabloids dressed wearing tents dresses, huge ponchos and a million layers. Do you think that was her taste in clothing? No way! If she was at her goal weight, you know good and well she’d be kickin’ some fitted clothes ready for the runway.

Fat doesn’t go away on it’s own. The problem typically gets worse, not better – so the clothes you are buying now to hide  your small flaws may one day become your skinny clothes that you store away because they no longer fit too. Then, suddenly you are wearing clothing 3 sizes bigger than you ever dreamed you’d be wearing, continuing to run from the inevitable.

Uncomfortable Stems Change
Sometimes you have to be uncomfortable to change. Whether it’s changing jobs, cities or relationships, being uncomfortable is not a bad thing –  it can be exactly what you need. Maybe it’s time to allow yourself to be a little uncomfortable for a change. Your uncomfortable clothes can motivated to fix it.

If your clothes aren’t fitting as good as they used to, and you really want to lose the weight and get (and stay) healthy, here are a few tips to change how you react to your fat.

5 Fat Fixes

1. Run to the gym, don’t run to the mall. If you are sick and tired of your clothes not looking good on you, don’t go for the quick shopping fix. Do it right. Get rid of the problem, don’t just hide it.

2. Purposely buy clothes that are just a hair small, instead of choosing stuff that’s lose & comfy. That will set you up for remaining that same size and getting comfortable at that weight. I’m not saying wear it if it looks ridiculous (like this chick! OMG!), but I am saying it’s good to have goals and to set yourself up for success, not failure. Many times our goals are not tangible – they’re just a number on a scale or a feeling you want to have. Fitting in a piece of clothing is a good tangible goal to reach for.

3. Use your skinny clothes as a reality check. As our waist grows, so does our imagination. We forget just how small we used to be and sometimes we just need a reality check. Always have a pair of your skinny jeans or shorts on standby so you can try them on and be reminded of your goal.

4. Don’t hide from the camera. Many people don’t like their picture taken when they are heavy. A photo can speak a thousand words – and a few of choice words at that, telling you what you need to hear to get your butt in the gym. I will never forget the time I saw my first fat picture. It was a much needed reality check to help me stop my destructive cycle. Plus, just because you dodge a picture, doesn’t mean you dodge eyeballs – people still see what you look like, picture or not. How silly are we?!

5. Hang out with fit peeps. When someone has a problem, there’s nothing worse than to hang out with other people who have the same problem too. Sure, it’s hard to be the “fat one” in a fit group, but spending time with fit friends is healthy. Although you may struggle with your self esteem at first, you will be held accountable just by being reminded how healthy people live. If you want to feel good about yourself, hang out with someone heavier than you – but don’t expect to lose weight.

Have a fat clothes fit tips? Share your dress code & weight loss tricks below!

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About Bonnie Pfiester

Fitness Columnist and Lifestyle Coach, Resident Trainer for Designer Whey, Fitness Advisor for FitStudio, powered by Sears, FitFluential Ambassador and Owner of Max Fitness Club, home of BCx Boot Camp in Vero Beach, Florida.

Posted on July 13, 2012, in Motivational, PFIT TIPS and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 18 Comments.

  1. Loved this post. “Having a great body is so much cheaper than having great wardrobe” is one of my favorite mantras when I don’t feel like going to the gym.

  2. I have a pair of older jeans, yes, I still wear, but they also tell me what is happening with my bod. As I age, and before too, this lets me know even more than the scale. Age does weird things & the scale can say one thing but the way the clothes fit is a whole other thing. I understand that we have to be happy with ourselves & yes, some may decide not to do as much as I have to stay their exact same size with age. I only say this Bonnie because from a lady turning 55 this year & knowing exactly what my body required to stay in those jeans thru the perimenopause into menopause years, it is tough & took a lot of work including gradual calorie reduction (not to craziness but yes, I have to eat less calories). I still work out just as hard if not harder BUT it is worth it to me. As for younger people though, I agree.. we are hiding from the truth many times & what I am really not liking is the clothes manufacturers making sizes larger than previous for sizes. What I mean is that a size 2 can actually fit like a 4 or 6. I went into a certain store & tried to buy a pair of shorts. I tried on every single pair at size s, xs & xxs. I am a size 4 & sometimes a 6 (in the olden days). I could not find one pair that was not TOO BIG & I am NOT a xs or xxs. I am a small… you get what I am saying – they are making people think they are smaller than they really are…

    • I totally agree!! I’ve bought clothes that were a smaller size than I knew I was – and it gives you a certain level of comfort/false measurement that can fool ya right into becoming a bigger size altogether. Good points!! Thanks for sharing!

  3. I get the general point of this article, but as someone who used to be obese, I think it’s better to be realistic about certain things when it comes to clothes shopping while losing weight… Even if you want to lose weight and buy smaller clothes, it really does help to buy clothes that properly fit your current size. I’m talking stuff that flatters; not too big and not too small. Wearing stuff that’s too small is uncomfortable and makes me hate myself (just as much as wearing stuff that’s too big and disguises my figure completely). Even when I wasn’t at my goal weight yet, it helped my confidence to dress nice in between sizes.

    Another good tip is to consider thrift stores so you can save money on “new” clothes as your sizes drop.

    I understand it’s important not to get complacent and stay at a heavier weight just because you’re able to find clothes in that size, but I’m not a fan of shaming myself just because I’m not at that “dream” size yet either. Learn to love and dress your body at any weight and be more encouraged to keep working hard to get to that healthier goal weight.

    I do agree with buying smaller things for the future, to keep you motivated, but I would also caution against buying things that are too small and won’t ever fit. Know your body type; in a perfect world, a goal size for some women would be 2 or 4, but with the way I’m built, I knew an 8 or 10 would be the best I could do without going to unhealthy extremes.

    • All great points and advice! thanks so much for sharing your personal experience and tips. When my mom had a bunch of weight to lose my dad told her he’d give her $5 or $10 for every pound she lost (can’r remember exactly how much). She lost 100lbs – so she went on a shopping spree! ha 🙂 I do agree that you shouldn’t walk around shaming yourself, constantly wearing tight clothes (which, you’re right, take a toll on your self esteem for sure) – I just want to warn against “allowing” more room than needed and dressing around your fat, as a way of continuing to enable and hide weight gain.

      Out of sight, out of mind. Being realistic is definitely key to success – and it’s all relative to wear you are and what your goals are for sure. Thanks again for taking the time so share. I’m sure others enjoyed it as well!

  4. Laurie Mackeson

    Interesting article expressing an idea not talked about much. While my level of awareness [at the time] of how I used to dress [Re: Covering the flaws I knew existed] was not high, looking back I was doing something like you express in this blog. I have only [consciously] learned about the “power” of clothing, the power to influence your Behaviour, in the past 2.5yrs. Topi well discussed 😃

  5. As I’ve lost weight I’ve noticed how much more colorful my closet has gotten – I didn’t realize how I was using black and beige as a cover up for my weight

    • So funny how much we learn the more fat we shed. My sister told me (after she lost 50lbs) she really wanted to wear the cuter “girlier” clothes but just didn’t admit it because they didn’t have sizes that fit her. Isn’t it funny how we compromise and what settle for to fit our fatter bodies. So interesting. Congrats on bright clothes and a bright future!!

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